Lust and Love---What do You have?

Wonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Whether your obsession about someone is a
sign of love or addiction? Whether you’re
staying in a troubled relationship because
you’re addicted or in love? It’s complicated,
and lust and love and addiction don’t always
exclude one another. Endless analyzing doesn’t help or change our feelings, because we’re
often driven by forces outside our conscious awareness.

When it’s purely lust, we’re not too interested in spending time together without sex or the expectation of it. We don’t want to discuss real-life problems and may not even want to spend the night. Fantasies are mostly sexual or about the person’s appearance and body, and we aren’t interested in meeting the person’s needs outside the bedroom — or maybe even inside!
Lust can be defined as “intense sexual desire,” or “an overwhelming desire or craving.” Often times when we hook up with someone, if all goes well, we crave that sort of passion again. This goes especially for girls who are biologically more prone to attach themselves emotionally to one partner after a sexual encounter than men, who were originally biologically programmed to mate with as many partners as possible. This being said, it’s not impossible for men to fall in “lust” either. We fall in “lust” when we want something we can’t have, so if there are any crushes out there we can’t, well, crush, we might lust for them even more. When we’re in lust, we might obsess over having someone who, in reality, we may not even be compatible with. When we get caught up in this feeling, the desire we develop can easily be mistaken for love, but they’re not the same at all.

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Which one of these have you experienced?

   

But lust also can lead to true love as we become attached to and get to know our sexual partner, and lust doesn’t always fade. I’ve seen couples married for decades who enjoy a vibrant sex life. However, true love does require that we recognize our separateness and love our mate for who he or she truly is.
There’s always some idealization in a new relationship, but true love endures when that fades. As the relationship grows, we develop trust and greater closeness. Instead of trying to change our partner, we accept him or her. We want to share more of our time and life together, including our problems and friends and family. Our lover’s needs, feelings, and happiness become important to us, and we think about planning a future together. When the passion is still there, we’re lucky to have both love and lust.



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